You're the Creator of Your Own Reality

Despite what happens around you, the way you interpret it and what you decide to do represents your true reality. We reflect on this below.
You're the Creator of Your Own Reality

Last update: 17 October, 2021

Do you know what reality is? Do you know what’s true and what’s a lie in this world we live in?

As Immanuel Kant put it, “we know a priori of things only what we ourselves put into them. With this statement, Kant made a Copernican turn, a revolution that involved a complete change of perspective. What he meant was that reality itself doesn’t exist. This is because we’re all active subjects and we transform reality according to our own experience.

Kant mentions that we can only understand knowledge a priori if we admit that we only know the phenomena and not the things themselves.

Thanks to Kant’s revolutionary contribution, we understand that we’re all active subjects in our own experience. Indeed, there’s no single reality that influences us. Hence, we’re not slaves of our circumstances.

You’re the creator of your own reality

We’re owners and we’re responsible for what happens to us. Therefore, every experience is a repercussion, a return of our thoughts, our emotional states, and the attitudes we decide to adopt at all times.

Depending on how receptive you are, you might find that you attract either more beneficial or harmful situations into your life. As a matter of fact, depending on your degree of openness and where you focus your attention, you attract experiences that are in line with the energy that you put into your environment.


This also happens internally. You weaken and contract diseases more easily if your thoughts lead you to believe that you’re a puppet of circumstance and that you can’t do anything about it.

When you experience a continuous succession of unpleasant experiences, it doesn’t mean that life has turned against you. In fact, it means that in some way you’re boycotting your experience through the energy that you’re mobilizing with your thoughts and actions.

There are no bad or good experiences. There are only experiences. Furthermore, each person, when faced with the same circumstances, will attribute different meanings to them. They’ll either learn from the experiences and get ahead, or they’ll anchor themselves in what happened and self-destruct little by little.

You’re not a slave to your thoughts or emotions

Contrary to what many people may believe, you can control your thoughts and you can take control of your emotions so you don’t get embroiled in them.

Your thoughts often become rooted in what you’ve become used to. In fact, if you reinforce this kind of attitude, they’ll strengthen your neural network and automatically activate unpleasant thoughts in any situation.

If you’re not aware of this, you end up being a slave to what you think. You believe that there’s no way out of your uncomfortable thoughts. Consequently,  you perform actions that confirm this state of mind.

Perhaps you don’t put enough energy into what you want to achieve. Therefore, you get frustrating results. Then, you wonder why you never get what you want. You ask yourself why bad things always happen to you


For this reason, you get caught up in a vicious circle by creating greater helplessness in yourself. This isn’t due to your own circumstances, but to how you’ve responded to the situation and surrendered to it.

Being aware that you create your own reality, and that you’re not a puppet of circumstance is the only way to change your thinking. In fact, you’re able to modify it at the very moment you realize that you’re once again boycotting yourself.

Only you can change the reality of how you see things and how they’re presented to you. Your emotional state, in turn, will also adapt according to how you understand each of your experiences, and how you live and assimilate them, incorporating them into your learning.

As we said earlier, there are no good or bad emotions. There are just necessary reactions to your experiences. They’re indicators of what happens to you, and attending to them helps you to better understand yourself.

Feeling means your emotions are released and your energy flows. Hence, you’re able to feel the new experiences.

Sometimes, you might try and prevent certain emotions because you don’t want to feel them. That’s because you think they’re inappropriate or negative. However, by doing this you’re actually giving them greater strength. You’re increasing their intensity. Furthermore, you’re infecting your other emotions in such a way that an imbalance occurs. 

You build and shape your own reality. You’re the architect of your own experience. Are you willing to take on that responsibility?

Whether you’re aware of it or not, you’re the creator of your own reality and your own experience. They develop as a response to the thoughts and emotions that you set in motion yourself.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.