You Can Be Your Own Hero

You Can Be Your Own Hero
Sergio De Dios González

Reviewed and approved by the psychologist Sergio De Dios González.

Written by Yamila Papa

Last update: 18 December, 2023

Waiting for someone to come and save you is a mistake because no one will know how to do it better than yourself. But a little help could definitely come in handy sometimes. Your best savior is you because you can also be your own hero.

You don’t need to put on a special suit or fight against enemies with superpowers. It’s enough to simply pay attention and take care of yourself when you need it most. Otherwise, unease or discomfort might emerge someday and stay for good.

Being your own hero will help you improve your self-esteem, take you on the path towards your dreams, and show the rest of the world that you have the ability to do whatever you desire. Your happiness depends on yourself and definitely on your heroism.

The importance of making decisions

A hero is defined by their bravery, their ability to act, and, in some ways, to create happiness and well-being. How does a hero do this? By making decisions, choosing what to do and where to go. Thus, if you want to become your own hero, your decisions will be very important.

Woman wearing a superhero cape.

The problem is that you’re constantly making decisions, but you don’t notice it. From the clothes you put on to what you’re going to eat or how you spend your day.

Your routine is full of decisions. The best decisions are related to our attitude. How do you choose to face the day or, simply, how do you handle things as they are happening?

Often, you think that you wield less power than you truly do over your own life. Thus, deciding how you’re going to act and what your attitude will be towards different situations is fundamental. A hero is aware of this power and cultivates it. Shall we get to work?

Stop giving away the main role to those inner voices that don’t let you move forward and anchor you in the comfort zone. Instead, choose to save yourself from that “evil commodity”.

The hero and the villains

A hero, besides their bravery, is defined by their constant struggle against enemies with the objective of saving the world. If you want to become your own hero you’ll also have to learn how to fight against your own enemies.

Who are your enemies? Everything and everyone who traps you with unease and discomfort and anything or anyone that belittles you. This includes fears, distrust, conflicts, and toxicity. But, above all, yourself. Every time you treat yourself badly or don’t think about yourself you’re forgetting all the potential you have.

So I have to fight against myself? No. Unlike the heroes in the movies, shows, and books, you have to transform everything that harms you into something that will produce well-being.

Or, at least into something that you can always learn from. Your struggle is not a fight, it’s a search for comprehension and awareness in order to flip the tables on your circumstances and start taking care of yourself. That’s the key.

A shadow of evil is following a figure.

How can I become my own hero?

We’ve already seen that being aware of your decisions and encouraging a comprehensive attitude in order to gain awareness and transform it into a helpful ally is a great task in becoming your own hero. But, what else can you do?

It’s important to begin to analyze what and who is controlling your life. Is it your boss, your family, your job, or social precepts? When did you give all of this “permission” to do whatever it wanted with you?

We don’t mean that everyone around you is suddenly your enemy. Instead, we mean that sometimes these people can become obstacles in your path towards growth, even though they have the best of intentions. Hence, it’s important to pay attention to your surroundings in order to not let them influence you in a negative way.

A girl is holding a plush heart.

The key to becoming your own hero is not found outside. It’s found within, within each one of us. It’s the ability to make yourself visible to your own eyes and to give yourself the importance you deserve to provide yourself with better support.

Because there’s only one person that will accompany you forever, for better or for worse. And that person is yourself. Why waste time being your own critic and biggest enemy?

Take care of yourself, love yourself, and understand yourself. True heroes are not those who fight constantly against monsters or who fly through the clouds.

Heroes are people who can save themselves each and every day with the intention of making their lives fulfilling and provide happiness for those closest to them.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.