The Give and Take of Love

The Give and Take of Love
Rafa Aragón

Written and verified by the psychologist Rafa Aragón.

Last update: 21 December, 2022

To love without being loved back can be one of the most difficult experiences we can endure in our lives. It’s a moment during which we experience abandonment, sadness and a feeling of emptiness that feels unbearable. We can’t care for someone without paying a high price for the consequences it might have.

When we love, we touch the sky have that wonderful sensation that we can handle everything. Nothing seems to matter. But loving also has a different side, that makes you feel like life suddenly has no meaning or makes no sense. As if everything you’ve built and experienced had lost all value. Your dreams and hopes crumble, leaving only bitterness.

The natural tendency that we feel when we love is to go towards the person we care about, an irresistible attraction. It’s impossible for it to stop without going through some suffering.

The disappointment and pain of unreturned affection can break lovers, leaving them submerged in desperation. And feeling the deep sensation of not being able to find another person like the one we loved.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.