6 Most Common Bad Habits of Couples

6 Most Common Bad Habits of Couples

Last update: 17 October, 2015

Romantic relationships are built with time, love and the proper management of many habits that begin to appear, day by day, between two lovebirds.

After we’ve spent some time dating, these habits can become very damaging for the relationship without our knowing it, especially if we don’t watch out for them. We can be left making excuses, which can end up making things even worse for the relationship. Since a romantic relationship is like a garden, it must be cultivated over time.

If we want to approach this topic in a fair and balanced way, it’s always good to keep in mind that each partner is going to have their own, individual characteristics to add to the relationship and this includes their own way of communicating.

That being said, we are now going to tell you about the most common, bad habits that couples experience which can end up deteriorating the relationship over time.

What are the 6 most common bad habits that couples have?

1- Only talking about the daily grind

The beginning of every romantic relationship starts with an exciting newness and enthusiasm in talking about anything and everything. During the first few months, everything is new. However, it is also true that once we’ve begun getting to know our partner more and more, we start to rely on asking the more automatic questions that are based our daily routines. This can become quite mechanical.

In order to maintain a healthy relationship, it is important for us to stay away from constant conversations that are reduced to the topics of work and/or school. If we don’t, there will come a time when we won’t even know what to talk about when we are no longer working or going to school!

It is important to stay curious and to want to learn more about our partner. This is key in keeping communication stimulating between couples.

2- Forgetting important dates

It’s easy for us to forget things like a partner’s family member’s birthday, or an event that your partner considers really special for sharing with you. But when we start to forget these important dates “without meaning to,” we can come across as uncaring. This can break down the relationship, little by little, until there comes a time when we just don’t feel like sharing anything with one another.

Marking important dates down on a calendar or in your phone can be a very good method for avoiding forgetfulness.

3- Skipping the compliments

Each and every one of us likes to receive compliments, whether they be about our looks, our strengths, or how great we are as people. These types of comments may be small, but they are fundamental in maintaining that spark in our relationship.

One of the strongest and most damaging things we can do in a romantic relationship is to make our partner think that we are no longer interested in how they look or feel. In response, our partner may end up no longer caring about how they look or feel for us. This brings us to our next habit….

4- No longer caring about how we look

This is a habit that normally develops after a while, as we no longer see the importance of taking care of ourselves the way we did when the relationship was new. When we were single, we spent plenty of time taking care of ourselves. But ever since we found our other half, that “need” to be attractive for ourselves and others has slowly faded over time.

When we talk about being aware of this habit, we don’t mean spending hours a day getting ready to check the mail. But rather, simply showing our partner that we still care to be attractive to them is enough to avoid this bad habit.

We also don’t need to feel the pressure to please everyone around us. Just take enough care that you feel good about yourself. After all, if you don’t like you, what are others supposed to think?

5- Putting our partner last

We’ve all been there. Our partner suggests we do something with them and we turn it down, but then a friend of ours suggests something similar and we go for it. This is a habit that really tears down they way our partner feels and can cause them to believe that we no longer value them. When our partner no longer feels valued, it puts our relationship in jeopardy. This habit is one that shows our partner that we are no longer interested in investing in the relationship.

6- Talking less

This is one of the most subtle bad habits, but also one of the most common. Furthermore, it can be quite difficult to change once we have realized we are doing it and have accepted it as a “problem.”

Many people dismiss this habit, thinking it to be no more than a “rough patch” or bad timing (and these could be true, but be careful!). Talking less can lead to a loss of communication that is replaced by distrust, misunderstandings and discord. These can create an empty space and the possible need to fill this space with someone else.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.