To Be Loved, First You Have to Love Yourself

· June 5, 2016

How can you ask someone to love you if you don’t love yourself? It’s impossible to feel good with others if we don’t start with our own hearts.

So, we’re going to show you some of the keys to improving your self-esteem.

“Loving oneself is the beginning of a never-ending love story.”
-Oscar Wilde-

Tips to love yourself

If you need other people to love you, you should start by loving yourself. We can give you some pieces of advice that can really come in handy in order to start valuing yourself as the person you are.

Worry about what you think about you

“We all know that self-esteem comes from what you think about yourself, not from what others think about you.”
-Gloria Gaynor-girl in a field

We start off with this phrase by the wonderful singer Gloria Gaynor, since it’s perfect for demonstrating this first piece of advice.

The only person you’re without a doubt going to spend the rest of your life with is yourself. So, love yourself because inside resides the person you should think fondly of.

Don’t forget that you are a very valuable person. Always think about how much you’re worth and how well you do the things you like.

If other people think it’s not worthwhile, don’t allow that to influence you and crush your self-esteem. Since, in the end, you may end up falling into the horrible well of depression.


Dedicate time to yourself

Though you may be a very busy person, it’s important that you find time for yourself every day. Look for some space in your agenda and keep it clear every day so you can be alone with yourself.

Think about who you are, what you’ve done right and wrong, when you’ve enjoyed yourself and when you’ve suffered. In short, reserve a small portion of every day to get to know yourself a little bit more.

We’re capable of knowing and valuing ourselves just a bit more thanks to the time we dedicate to ourselves.

This way, it’s a lot simpler to love oneself, since we get to know our most intimate self, our true and marvelous essence.

Practice your self-esteem

For others to love you, it’s important to practice your self-esteem. If we let ourselves get carried away by the naysayers, we’ll end up believing that we’re not worth anything. In other words, we need to believe in ourselves and keep away from toxic people.

Avoid toxic people

Human beings that are incapable of valuing themselves only find confidence by destroying the self-esteem of others.

This way they achieve small and bland successes that let them move forward in life for brief moments in time. Until they once again need to crush someone in order to receive another impulse.

It’s obvious that this way of being is truly self-destructive. Thus, these people are solitary, dependent and dictatorial. They become toxic people that need to be close to other people with weak personalities and low self-esteem.

We should avoid these people like a disease, since in the end, relationships with them can be harmful to anyone’s health.

Actually, toxic people don’t love you, no matter how hard the scream it to the heavens. They simply need you because they’re incapable of facing themselves, their fears and their dark interior.

Don’t misinterpret them. If you have to degrade yourself to feel loved, you’re actually living a lie.

Make decisions

Another good exercise we can do to love ourselves a little bit more each day is to make decisions. Don’t let others decide the course of your life.

Be you who chooses the path which you wish to take in the world. This security is well perceived by other people, which will love you sincerely for it.

“In fact, it’s our decisions which determine what we can become, much more than our abilities.”
-J. K. Rowling-girl with long hair

Truly love yourself

Remember to love yourself every day. Don’t let yourself get carried away by a stressful job, a possessive family, or a toxic environment.

You are an important person and others should love you for who you are, not what they expect from you.

If you truly need and desire to be loved, start by loving yourself. Make decisions, move forward in your life with a firm pace and don’t let anyone take your  hopes, dreams and securities away from you.

The people who are truly worthy of your love will understand and love you for being who you are. Love yourself.