What To Do When Everything Is Going Wrong
There are days when it seems like we got up on the wrong side of the bed. You have to get to an appointment and everything gets messed up; you want to see someone and it is not possible for you or you just feel down in the dumps.
In these moments, everything looks complicated and it seems like nothing could possibly go right.
Even worse, you turn to the people around you and it seems like everyone has agreed to make your day difficult. What do you do when everything is going wrong?
“We can always choose to perceive things differently. We can focus on what’s wrong in our life, or we can focus on what’s right.”
-Marianne Williamson-
When you find yourself having one of those days, keep the following things in mind:
Life is not easy
Forget waiting on life to be perfect. It never will be and that is good, because this gives you the opportunity to evolve.
When everything is going wrong, it is because you are only focusing on your failures . Maybe it is time to evaluate your expectations.
If necessary, make some adjustments or change. Those who go through life expecting only positive things find themselves faced with many disappointments along the way.
“If you look for perfection, you’ll never be happy.”
-Leo Tolstoy-
Success does not come over night
We all want to be successful and recognized for what we love, but we are not always willing to work as much as necessary.
Right now, do you feel like everything is going wrong because you do not have the success that you desire?
It may be time to analyze what you have and value it. Then you can create a plan to arrive where you want to be.
It is necessary to have patience and effort to reach any goal; do not let frustration beat you. Set small goals and go for them little by little.
“Trees that are slow to grow bear the best fruit.”
-Moliere-
Learn the lesson
Why do you feel like everything is going wrong? What is causing that feeling in you? What can you learn from it?
Do not complain about all the terrible things that happen to you. That will be your first reaction, but it really serves no purpose. You will only manage to feel worse each time that you think about it.
It is better to confront what you have as if it were a challenge. Learn to see the fun side and go beyond your limits.
Appreciate the good
Do not let yourself be defeated by sadness or depression. It will be difficult to smile when you feel like everything is going bad, but how else are you going to improve the way you see things?
Learn to see your mistakes and failures as part of life and the evolutionary process. Then appreciate all the good things that you have now.
“Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.”
-Arnold Schwarzenegger-
Do not worry anymore
Do not worry about everything that is happening around you. If everything is going wrong today, focus on the things that you can change. For everything else, you have to go with the flow. Though you may not believe it, things take their place in your life little by little.
Instead of spending the whole night worrying about what you have to do, focus on creating a plan to resolve everything that you possibly can.
Cry if you need to
When everything is going wrong, it is impossible not to feel like crying. Do it! Do not be afraid to cry; it is not a sign of weakness. It is necessary to let out those feelings and let them fly so that others can take their place.
What you must not do is concentrate on the bad all the time and avoid moving on. Cry now, and then continue down your path.
“Do not apologize for crying. Without this emotion, we are only robots.”
-Elizabeth Gilbert-
Remember that nobody’s life is perfect
How much time do you spend comparing your life to the lives of others? At first sight, it may seem that you have a complicated life, full of defects and nothing perfect. The good news is that you are not the only one.
Stop comparing yourself and believing that things are going better for everyone else. Maybe that friend who seems to be blessed with great luck with men is actually incapable of finding one who makes her happy. Or that cousin of yours who gets a new car every year is so far in debt that he cannot get a good night’s sleep.
When everything is going wrong, think about where you are and where you want to be. Your main concern must not be what everyone else in the world is doing.