Polarized Thinking: A Cognitive Distortion
Polarized thinking is a cognitive distortion. In other words, it’s a reasoning mistake we make without realizing it. It makes us process information incorrectly and this leads to emotional distress. Cognitive distortions were described by Albert Ellis and Aaron Beck. In…
The Things You Don’t Name Stop Existing
Where do the nameless fears go? Where does your mind store the emotions that you’ve let go of? How do you deal with the things that bring you pain if you avoid them? Where’s the final resting place of those…
Identifying, Translating, and Expressing Difficult Emotions
Difficult emotions are those that don’t present themselves in a pure state. Most emotions are somewhat difficult. For example, feeling hate and love at the same time is more common than you’d think. Another common example is the common combination…
Three Differences Between Emotions and Feelings
You have surely confused emotions with feelings more than once. We experience both at the same time, and they prove easy to confuse. But it’s very important to know the difference between emotions and feelings. We must manage each one…
5 Reasons Why You Can’t Find the Love of Your Life
The idea that someone out there is the “love of your life” is quite popular. In some way, it’s similar to the idea of “having a better half”. It implicitly introduces the idea that there’s a great love predestined for…
I Looked at My Inner Demons in the Eye
I looked at my inner demons in the eye and discovered what fear was. That paralyzing fear that comes from within and takes control so fiercely that gasping for air seems impossible. That state that makes you feel like your…
7 Tricks to Developing a Resilient Mind in a Child
Developing a resilient mind in a child is invaluable. You know that your little ones are capable of extraordinary things. However, the most important thing is for them to be happy. For this to happen, nothing is better than teaching them…
Emotionary: A Wonderful Book About Emotional Education
Your emotional education plays a huge role in the person you become in life. Properly managing your emotions makes you more intelligent. But first, someone has to teach you how. One of the best new tools out there for that is the…
Big Eyes, women and the artistic world
Big Eyes (2014) is probably the least “Burton-ish” Tim Burton movie. It’s actually hard to find his unique style in the movie. In fact, it’s nothing like what Burton normally produces because it’s based on real events. We’re talking about a…
7 Features of Emotional Maturity
Feelings are more complex than emotions. It intertwines with the other, but it also has a rational component such as a longer amount of time and deeper roots. Emotional maturity, therefore, may be defined as an emotional trace which is…
5 Keys to Expressing Emotional Pain
Expressing emotional pain has become increasingly unpopular. Although everyone experiences internal suffering, it’s more and more common to ignore it. People who are “positive” and have “good energy” are welcomed with open arms. Yet, those in emotional pain often get…
When You Don’t Feel Anything During Depression
Everybody has dealt with depression at some point or another. Some people experience a mixture of sadness and anger combined with dejection. On the other hand, others feel a void and a total absence of emotions. Depression is like having lead…
Emotionally unavailable people: experts in avoiding intimacy
Emotional ignorance is a great obstacle to relationships. The inability to connect feelings is a huge hindrance in creating a strong, healthy and lasting relationships. Most important is one’s connection with his own self. In fact, its difficulty is a…
5 Ways to Deal With Hurt Feelings
No one teaches you how to cope with what hurts you directly. Maybe you always heard “Don’t cry,” “Time heals everything,” “It will pass”… but none of these phrases helped you. What’s more, they made you feel worse. Therefore, we…
7 Strange Emotions we all Feel Sometimes
There are some common strange emotions that all of us have felt. Fear, when there is something that threatens us. Rage, when someone hurts us or makes us feel bad. Joy when people tell us nice things… These are daily…
What are Emotions?
We have all wondered what emotions are at least once. We could define them as the “glue of life”. They are the invisible but intense matter which allows us to connect with others and to be a part of reality.…
It Seems to be in Vogue to not Say what we Feel
It seems that nowadays we play with not showing what we like. With not putting ourselves out there out of fear of rejection. With waiting for the other to say what they feel for us to say what we also…
The 7 Laws of Emotions according to Nico Frijda
The psychologist Nico Frijda was a prestigious researcher. In 2006 he presented an article in which he explained what in his opinion are the laws of emotions. He intended to establish fixed patterns about emotions. Emotions are realities that are…
9 Questions to Ask about Emotional Intelligence
Aristotle said that anyone can get angry. However, getting angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, with the right purpose and in the right way… is really difficult. This article talks about the concept…